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The Transition of Friendships After A Move
I know the effort of maintaining relationships is a two-way street, but that’s also part of what makes it difficult.
My husband and I are a little more than six months into our recent move. We are three hours away from the area we lived in for the last 23 years. It’s not too far but is far enough. We miss our friends.
In the last six months, we’ve made several trips back to the La Crosse area where most of our friends live. Despite planning to come back to have dinner, and hang out for a weekend or two, that’s only come to pass once. There are a lot of reasons for it and none of them are that we want to get rid of our friends.
Firstly, everyone leads busy lives, we know that. Some of our friends are retired and many are not. Surprisingly, the correlation between those retired and those not hasn’t made a difference in who we’ve seen. What I mean is that visiting the cabin has occurred with some despite whether our friends are retired or not. In six months we’ve had three couples stay for weekends and one of those couples has been here twice — they visited often before our move, however. The other two couples came up for the first time ever this fall. A good time was had by all on each visit.
Another reason that we haven’t been back to La Crosse to stay for more weekends of visiting is that we…
